Welcome to Title Tuesday, my favorite day of the week! This day is dedicated to book suggestions, news, cartoons, and reviews. I write this portion of my blog because I am a big believer in the motivational speaker Charlie Jones' quote which says, "You will be the same person in five years as you are today except for the people you meet and the books you read.” I try to meet as many new people as possible and to read everything I can. This is my way of sharing that information with you. If you are interested in understanding my rating system for books you can read my Book Review Explanation here and What I Believe here. If you want to check out what I am currently reading or what I want to read next, friend me on Goodreads!
Today I want to share a book that is very dear to my heart. Every Heart Restored by Fred & Brenda Stoeker is a book that works to bring restoration to wives and focus back to marriages damaged by a husband's sexual sin.
While the book does say that it is geared towards all sexual sin (lust, porn, emotional and physical affairs) I find that most of the information is better geared towards pornography and lust issues than affairs. If you want to see text geared specifically towards affairs, check out my review of "After a Good Man Cheats" by Caroline Madden, PhD.
Now, back to Every Heart Restored. This book is different from other "infidelity help" books in that it really does actually help. Every Heart Restored explains the male sex drive from a biblical perspective. It helps women to see that men truly do have different needs, desires, and potential pitfalls sexually. The authors take the readers through the various things in life that can damage a man, allowing a sexual sin to slip in and take root. While these past issues do not by any means excuse the sexual sin, it can help a wife to realize that these sins of her husband's are NOT her fault. I love that this book takes a hard line on what sexual sin is and isn't. I like that the Stoekers don't fall for the "boys will be boys, so you need to just forgive him and move on line" that is so often pushed in Christian marriage circles.
Overall, I rate Every Heart Restored a solid A+ book. I would say that if your husband is struggling with sexual sin or if you are having a difficult time moving beyond his past sexual sins, Every Heart Restored is worth your time and energy. I would also recommend that if you are a husband that has been unable to reach your wife despite having apologized profusely this book could help you to understand the tremendous hurt that your wife is carrying and trying to overcome.