Divorce parties.... to me those words do not belong in the same breath.
When I think divorce I think of:
a devastating blow,
an incredible level of distrust.
What I do not think is "party".
So, imagine my surprise this week when one of my favorite news sources ran an article (view here) that talked about the incredible business being built around divorce parties. Some of these parties are pretty elaborate and over the top. The initial reaction is to say that it is only the eccentric people that do that, normal people don't have a party after their divorces. Then I got to thinking about it and I have a couple of friends from high school who got married young and had a party upon completion of their divorces later on. This happening in our neighborhoods not just on the tabloid pages.
Needless to say this topic was stuck in my mind as I had dinner with a group of girlfriends this weekend. I brought up the article and asked them what they thought. The responses astounded me.
Of the six of us at the table (all unmarried) only four of us plan to get married, and of the four of us there are only two who believe that divorce is not an option. In fact, one of the girls said, "Divorce is pretty much inevitable, that is the risk you run when you get married. You may not believe in divorce but that doesn't mean that he (your husband) agrees with you. If he decides to leave there isn't much you can do about it." I replied that as a Christian woman, I do not believe in divorce. I believe you are married to one person for the rest of your life. The oldest woman at our table replied that I believe that because of my age and that when I get older that will change. The other women at the table nodded in agreement.
Divorce is common now, so common in fact that often people don't think anything of it when they hear that "so-and-so" got divorced. I don't think that my view is "young" or "idealistic". Instead, I think we need to remember that just because it is common does not mean that it is right or that it is biblical. Marriage is not something to be entered into lightly or with the notion that there is a quick and easy exit. The wounds from divorce are not something that can be healed with champagne and a piñatas.