Monday, February 19, 2018

Military Monday: Finally Home

Welcome to another Military Monday!

Upon marrying a military man I learned that there is a LOT to know about life as a military spouse. Mondays are my day to talk about the things I am learning, the new language, military news and current events. Sometimes I post encouraging videos, stories, and cartoons as well.


Thursday, February 15, 2018

Thoughtful Thursday: Week 7

Welcome to Thoughtful Thursday. Normally this is where I post things that catch my attention or inspire me from across the internet. (Most of the images and their links can be found here.)  I post these pictures in hopes that they will make you smile as well. This year I thought I might include my list each week from the 52 Lists for Happiness Journal that I posted about at the start of the year.  I hope you have a beautiful Thursday. 


 Don't you just love a heartfelt compliments? How can you bless someone else with a genuine compliment today?  

If you join me in this little project, use the hashtag #52HappyLists to see what everyone else is writing about! 

Wednesday, February 14, 2018

Wife to Wife Wednesday: Getting Mentorship

Good morning! Welcome to Wife to Wife Wednesday, the day that we discuss any and all issues relating to marriage. 

Today I want to encourage you to look for a Titus 2 Woman to help you in your walk with Christ and as a godly wife.  However, if you are a military spouse (like me) this can sometimes be VERY difficult. With TDYs, deployments, and overseas moves, it isn't always easy to meet with godly Christian women. 

So what can you do? 

Blog Hops can be a great place to find godly Christian women that are actively moving the ball down the field for Christ.

Books are a great resource to find inspiration and helpful tips in your Christian walk. 

Christian Facebook groups can help you connect with people all across the world from all stages of life. 

Just a reminder, if you want to learn from wiser women, you have to be ready to put yourself out there a little bit! DO that by commenting on their posts, post questions of your own, and ask for advice. Even if you are on the other side of the world, Christian community is available. You just have to know where to find it!

Tuesday, February 13, 2018

Title Tuesday: After A Good Man Cheats

Welcome to  Title Tuesday, my favorite day of the week! This day is dedicated to book suggestions, news, cartoons, and reviews. I write this portion of my blog because I am a big believer in the motivational speaker Charlie Jones' quote which says, "You will be the same person in five years as you are today except for the people you meet and the books you read.” I try to meet as many new people as possible and to read everything I can. This is my way of sharing that information with you. If you are interested in understanding my rating system for books you can read my Book Review Explanation here and What I Believe here. If you want to check out what I am currently reading or what I want to read next, friend me on Goodreads!

Today, I want to tell you about a book that I really didn't expect to like. After a Good Man Cheats: How to Rebuild Trust &Intimacy with Your Wife by Caroline Madden, PhD. 

First of all, I love that this book is written by a woman. Many books on restoring a marriage after infidelity or sexual sin are written by men, teaching men how to essentially trick their wives into forgiving them, or at the least not divorcing them. They tend towards "you screwed up, be on your best behavior for a while and she will get off your back eventually". 

Madden doesn't take that approach at all. 

Instead, Madden talks men through the realities of the devastation that they have poured onto their wives. I need to be clear, this book is written for men that have had actual affairs (emotional or physical). This isn't a book for wives, but for husbands to better understand what they have done and how it has impacted their wives. She addresses real life conversations that need to be had, questions you should ask, as well as tangible real life steps to help your wife feel more secure in your marriage. She also gives clear and calming phrases to use to help lead the conversations in a positive manner. 

Overall, I would give After A Good Man Cheats a solid B+. I don't give it an A+ because it is a secular book and I don't agree with absolutely all of it.Madden does a great job of helping the husband to understand the deep wounds that he has caused and how best he can help his wife to heal. This would be a valuable book for any man that has committed a sexual betrayal and wants to rebuild his marriage and renew the faith of his wife.


Monday, February 12, 2018

Military Monday: No Sense

Welcome to another Military Monday!

Upon marrying a military man I learned that there is a LOT to know about life as a military spouse. Mondays are my day to talk about the things I am learning, the new language, military news and current events. Sometimes I post encouraging videos, stories, and cartoons as well.


Saturday, February 10, 2018

Scripture Saturday: Titus 2:3-5

Do you have those things that just nag at you? Things that really irk you? 

I have recently found that one of my greatest irritants is Christian women. 

Wait... What? 

Isn't this blog all about biblical womanhood?

Yes, and I want to clarify that there is a HUGE difference between being just a Christian woman and living out biblical womanhood. 

If you are a woman and you take Christ as your Lord and savior, then you are a Christian woman. That is it. But living out biblical womanhood takes work and effort. One of the best descriptions of biblical womanhood can be found in Titus 2:3-5 which says,  
"...the older women likewise, that they be reverent in behavior, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things— that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed."
That makes it pretty clear doesn't it? 

So here is the part that gets me... 
WHERE ARE THESE WOMEN? 

I see SO many Christian women being bogged down by the daily grid that they are completely out of the battlefield. They are failing to practice these things much less teach them to other women. These women are struggling with holding it all together when God has called us to thrive and pursue Him. I think that is due in large part to the abdication of older women from their roles as teachers. 

Now, please hear me, I am not saying OLD WOMEN are failing. I am saying if you are further along in your spiritual journey than another person, YOU are the older woman, even if you are 14 years old. 

So this is where I challenge you and myself. 

We as the body of Christ need to do better.

Be the one to reach out your hand and say I am here. Let the struggling women know that they are not alone. You can do that in two ways, physically and spiritually.  

Physically, you can be the person to:
volunteer to babysit her children (for free!)
volunteer to help her catch up on housework
volunteer to host her family in your home for a meal

Spiritually you can be the person to drive the conversation toward God by: 
asking about her time in the word
asking how you can pray for them, 
asking how God is working in her life right now 

These are so simple, and yet we have entire congregations filled with women that are so overwhelmed by everyday life that they aren't in the battle for God's kingdom. 
We should be outraged by that!  

I for one refuse to sit on the sideline. I want to see godly women living out biblical womanhood every single day. I want Titus 2 women working for God's glory the way that HE called us to. 
So join me. 

Think about the women in your church, Bible study, mommy group, or office. Is there someone there that you can reach out to? 
If so, DO IT. 

If not, look again. I bet they are there. 



Friday, February 9, 2018

Femininity Friday: Mankind and Sexist Language

Justin Trudeau (Canada's Prime Minister) recently said "peoplekind" instead of "mankind". He claims that it was just a joke and not to be taken seriously. 

However, there are PLENTY of examples in the media of our language being compromised for the sake of political correctness, especially when it comes to "sexism". 

You can find  lists on words that are "subtly sexist" as well as explanations of what makes them sexist and how to combat them. All of these things are to help combat gender violence in our speech and writing. 

Here is my issue with it... it is ridiculous. I am a housewife. I am a mommy-blogger. None of that is false. I tend to be very caring, dependable, and modest. I don't do those things because the patriarchy makes me. I do them because they are right for me and what God has called me to. How is that sexist?!? I like my femininity and I refuse to have it said that the "patriarchy" forced me in to it with words. 

Anyone who is familiar with George Orwell's 1984, probably wonders how long it will be before that is the correct way to speak. As of this year, here in California you can be put in jail if you use the wrong gender pronoun for someone. So if you feel like you are a "SHE" even if you have male genitalia, I can be imprisoned for calling you "HE". 

REALLY.

This is a slippery slope y'all and little slips like the one from Canada's Prime Minister are funny now, but they wont be in 10 years when people are actually being imprisoned for "sexist" speech. We as Christians need to be paying attention and standing firm. 

Thursday, February 8, 2018

Thoughtful Thursday: Week 6

Welcome to Thoughtful Thursday. Normally this is where I post things that catch my attention or inspire me from across the internet. (Most of the images and their links can be found here.)  I post these pictures in hopes that they will make you smile as well. This year I thought I might include my list each week from the 52 Lists for Happiness Journal that I posted about at the start of the year.  I hope you have a beautiful Thursday. 




What blocks you from happiness? 
 
If you join me in this little project, use the hashtag #52HappyLists to see what everyone else is writing about! 

Tuesday, February 6, 2018

Title Tuesday: #Bibliophile

Welcome to  Title Tuesday, my favorite day of the week! This day is dedicated to book suggestions, news, cartoons, and reviews. I write this portion of my blog because I am a big believer in the motivational speaker Charlie Jones' quote which says, "You will be the same person in five years as you are today except for the people you meet and the books you read.” I try to meet as many new people as possible and to read everything I can. This is my way of sharing that information with you. If you are interested in understanding my rating system for books you can read my Book Review Explanation here and What I Believe here. If you want to check out what I am currently reading or what I want to read next, friend me on Goodreads!

Today I want to talk about the phrase, "I love to read". I hear this all the time, especially from people asking me for book recommendations. 

I see people use the hashtag #bibliophile in their posts and bios and it really irks me. 

Just because you read a lot doesn't mean you are a bibliophile. 

Let me give you an example. 

If I eat a lot of potato chips can I call myself a foodie? 

NO! 

You aren't a foodie, you just like chips. 

You may be chip expert, but you are not a foodie. 

By the same token, if you are only reading one genre of books (especially if the target of that genre isn't your age bracket) I would say you are not a bibliophile. You may have an emotional attachment to that genre, but that is about it. I would also say you should evaluate the emotional response you have to those books and why you have it. I would submit that grown women often times read things because of the emotional appeal, not for the challenge of learning or growing. 


In my opinion a Christian women shouldn't be reading: 

  • young adult fiction (most young adult fiction isn't suitable for young adults!) 
  • romance ("Christian" or otherwise!)
  • horror (tell me how this brings ANY honor to God?)
  • erotica (It is just written pornography and you know it.)
  • anything that pollutes their mind 
  • anything that fails to bring glory to God.  

If you are reading trash you aren't a bibliophile you are a garbage disposal. 

God calls us to honor him in everything that we do. That means what we read needs to be a testament to our Christian faith. If it isn't I would search your heart carefully, ask pastors and mentors, and pray to God for discernment to see if it is really something that you should be doing. Reading a bunch of junk doesn't mean you love books, it means you love the emotional pull of something that probably doesn't bring glory to God. At best it is neutral and does nothing, at worst it damages your walk and your voice for Christ. 

Title Tuesday: He Calls You Beautiful

Welcome to  Title Tuesday, my favorite day of the week! This day is dedicated to book suggestions and reviews. I write this portion of my blog because I am a big believer in the motivational speaker Charlie Jones' quote which says, "You will be the same person in five years as you are today except for the people you meet and the books you read.” I try to meet as many new people as possible and to read everything I can. This is my way of sharing that information with you. If you are interested in understanding my rating system for books you can read my Book Review Explanation here and What I Believe here. If you want to check out what I am currently reading or what I want to read next, friend me on Goodreads! With all that being said, lets jump in!
I was given a free copy of this book
in exchange for my unbiased review. 
All thoughts and opinions are my own. 

With Valentine's Day just around the corner, many women (especially Christian women!) are looking longingly to romance novels, rom-coms, and online dating to fill a void in their lives. But, did you know that none of those places holds a candle to the romance story of the Bible? 

Today I want to share with you about a book that is solely geared towards women searching for love. In Dee Brestin's book, "He Calls You Beautiful" we take an in depth look at the greatest love story ever told and how it impacts our daily walk with Christ. 

I know what most of you are probably thinking. "What does the Bible have to do with a love story?" That is a fabulous question and Brestin does a fabulous job of pulling the focus of the Song of Solomon back to the love of our Creator. I don't want to give away too much and ruin the book for you, but I can say that Brestin explains it in such a way that you don't walk away feeling like you need a degree in Eschatology  in order to understand how this book of the Bible fits in with the rest. She breaks the book down into bite size portions and the Bible study at the end of each chapter is very helpful in making sure that you really understand the text. These questions could be done individually or in a group setting. 

Overall, I give He Calls You Beautiful a solid A+. This book shows us the incredible, sacrificial love of God through the love relationship between a man and a woman. Brestin does a great job of pointing the reader back to Christ with the Bible study portion at the end of each chapter. I can say that this book is THE VERY BEST study on the Song of Solomon that I have ever done. I look forward to reading more of Dee Brestin's work in the future!