I know it is Monday and normally I would post a Military Monday or a Motherhood Monday post. But, today I read an article from Kay Warren (wife of author Rick Warren) on Christianity Today and it really touched my heart. You can read the article here. So, I want to talk just a bit about marriage.
In the article, Mrs. Warren describes being in "marital hell", but not being able to say anything or do anything because she and her husband were supposed to have it all together. I can honestly say that I have felt the EXACT same way. While our ministry isn't nearly as big or as noted as the Warrens, Farr Fitness does see a LOT of people come through our home multiple times a day each and every week. The pressure to have a seemingly perfect marriage is pretty intense and easy to give in to.
Reading Mrs. Warren's story got me thinking about martial intimacy and the secrets that the Christian body hides from one another. In the article Kay says, "The common understanding of the day was if you love Jesus enough, your marriage will be happy. What was so confusing was that we loved Jesus with all our hearts and were committed to the local church. How could things be so bad?" and I can totally relate to this idea. We are in the middle of sharpening iron as we speak. We are both committed to our marriage and we are learning to be humble and submissive to one another in Christ Jesus.
I write all of this to say that if your marriage is struggling, if your heart is hurting, do not give up. I feel like there is SO much more to say on this subject but I am going to take some time to read, pray and speak with mentors and then I will post up my thoughts.
For now, I will leave you with, the goal of focusing on Jesus Christ. Get in the word every single day, multiple times a day.
Contact a friend, an older woman, a mentor, and ask them to be in prayer for your marriage.