Welcome to Title Tuesday, my favorite day of the week! This day is dedicated to book suggestions and reviews. I write this portion of my blog because I am a big believer in the motivational speaker Charlie Jones' quote which says, "You will be the same person in five years as you are today except for the people you meet and the books you read.” I try to meet as many new people as possible and to read everything I can. This is my way of sharing that information with you. If you are interested in understanding my rating system for books you can read my Book Review Explanation here and What I Believe here.
I have had a lot of questions and requests about re-building your marriage after pornography usage. Last week I reviewed Nicki Tiede's When Your Husband Is Addicted To Pornography: Healing Your Wounded Heart". Going along with this theme, today I want to tell you about "Worthy of Her Trust: What You Need to Do to Rebuild Sexual Integrity and Win Her Back" by Stephen Arterburn and Jason B. Martinkus.
I need to start off with the fact that "Worthy of Her Trust: What You Need to Do to Rebuild Sexual Integrity and Win Her Back" is written to men, and not women. Now women you can absolutely read it (I did!) especially if you husband isn't a reader but he really does want to rebuild your trust. While the authors are Christians, if your husband isn't a believer but he is open to rebuilding trust, this book has many useful tools that are areligious. Fair warning though, the authors are tough. They take a nonsense approach and speak fairly plainly, man to man. But as a wife, I can honestly say that this book has helped me to better understand the battle that our husbands face with moral purity too. I just wanted to give you a heads up.
Arterburn and Martinkus do a really good job of laying out what it means to break trust and then how to go about building it back up. They make it clear that it won't be quick or easy. They also inform the reader that what works for one family won't work for another. I absolutely LOVE the section in the book that talks about active honest (meaning tell the truth in EVERYTHING, no little white lies). I think this is something that every Christian marriage should practice regardless of pornography struggles or not.
This book is broken down into four different parts: Exchanging Myths for Reality, The Nonnegotiable of Trust Building, Mending Wounds, and Trust Building Tactics. I found that each section builds on the last. This isn't the kind of book that you hop around in. Instead, I would go through it methodically.
Overall, I would give "Worthy of Her Trust: What You Need to Do to Rebuild Sexual Integrity and Win Her Back" an A+ and then some. If I had a higher rating I would use that. This book is an excellent tool that should be in every Christian family's toolbox.
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