Tuesday, October 16, 2012

Support One Another

I had a curious experience this week. I went out with a new group of people that I met through a friend. This group was comprised of people ages 24-35. I was the youngest person there.

Through the evening as we were all getting to know one another the usual questions were asked:
Where did you go to school?
What did you major in?
What do you do?
Are you dating anyone?
What do you want to do "when you grow up"?

I used to avoid questions like these. I really don't like to talk about myself and to be completely honest there was a time when I found it embarrassing. I didn't understand God's plan for my life, so every single choice felt like something that I had to second-guess.

That isn't true anymore.

I know God's plan for my life. I understand my calling. So, when these 20 and 30 something year old people asked me where I am going and what I am doing I was able to answer. I was so excited about the chance to tell my peers what God has placed on my heart!

They did not respond as I imagined they would.

As we sat finishing our meal one of the men in the group looked at me and said, "Ok, if you could do anything in the world, what would you want to do?"

My first response without hesitation was: a wife and mother.

I believe God called me to minister to children with unique needs. I am a nanny and I pursing a teaching certification, but I believe that is just temporary. I believe the reason I am here is to be a helpmeet to my husband and to raise my family based on biblical principals; teaching my children at home and investing in their futures. I am called to be a Christian homemaker.

You would have thought I said that I wanted to be the newest member of the traveling circus. The responses were everything from "Your're too smart for that" to "40 years of feminism, what a waste".

Can you imagine my disappointment?

I won't lie, it hurt at first. It stung to hear people my own age mock my choice.

I am confident in who God has called me to be.  I don't want to be a Hilary Clinton, a Carrie Bradshaw, a Jessica Valenti, or a Meredith Grey. I want to be a Proverbs 31 woman!

Christian women, we need to pull together and support one another in our walks with Christ. We need to adhere to what we are taught in Titus 2: 3-5 where older women are told to teach the younger women. Younger women we need to allow the older women to teach us. This is not only a chance for education, this is a chance for fellowship and encouragement. This is where we have to support each other and stand up for our choice to live a godly life, set apart from the world.


  1. I found your blog through the Time-Warp Wife Link-up.

    I am really impressed with your attitude toward motherhood and being a wife. When I was growing up I wanted to be a lawyer. The last thing I wanted to be was a mom. God changed my heart during my time in law school. I then knew that He wanted me to be a stay-at-home mom. Quite a change from high-powered attorney, don't you think?

    Now, I've been married for 15 years and have 5 wonderful children. I am beyond blessed and can't imagine my life any other way!! You are in for some amazing experiences as a wife and mom, with ETERNAL significance!

    Carrie :)

    1. So deciding to pursue a career and not have a family does not come with ETERNAL significance?

  2. Found you at Titus 2sdays. Growing up all I knew was women stayed home. It was a blessing. We didn't have a lot of things but I don't think we really missed them. Now, necessity says I have to work outside the home and I realize what a blessing it was to have my mom home with us. I'm praying that things will change, and I too can stay at home with our kids.

  3. I'm always thrilled to say I homeschool my children. I feel it is such an honor that God has blessed me with. To be a good Christian wife and mother is the best calling I think any woman could have. Good Luck!

  4. I, as well, am a lawyer, and I became a stay-at-home mother last November. I love it! I think feminism set women in many ways that they never considered. Now there seems to be a push that we must "do it all" instead it being a want or a need. And if we choose not to "do it all" then we are "less than". I don't see very many happy women who "do it all" in my world, which made my decision that much easier to stay at home. Your education is not a waste in any way - it will be used as you're parenting and you can always go back.

    Blessed be.

    Found you on Blog Hop til You Drop. Come by sometime: 100lb Countdown

    1. I know many women who have it all (and are happy), including my mother, who is the greatest inspiration to me as a young woman pursuing my PhD. That is the great thing about being a woman in contemporary American society--there are so many options out there for us now. One woman's decision is not any better than another's.

  5. Hi there, just found your blog via Womanhood with purpose. Congratulations on hearing what God wants you and your heart to do and embracing it! Many blessings to you!
    I have had those "interesting" looks that at some points honestly have made me second guess for a moment if what I am doing is important (I'm a homeschooling mom, wife and hopefully encouraging blogger)
    I pray that the world view does shift to see the importance of us woman who were called to minister in our homes. We are doing so much behind the scenes (empowering spouses to be good employees and business owners and preparing the next generation to help the world) We're kind of a big deal! LOL!

  6. God Bless you in your journey!! I think it's great you know exactly what you want and what you are called, don't let anyone look down on you for it!

  7. I too am a former feminist...

    You wouldn't believe the blank stares I got when I told people my job was being a housewife. That just isn't accepted in our world... Now that I am a stay at home, people are constantly asking so where do ou want to work once your kids are in school? My thought is why is that the expectation?

    1. Because both men and women have to work to make a living in many families. Those families that can rely on a single income are very lucky and very blessed. Most families cannot support themselves with just one person working, and many single parents also have to work to support themselves and their children.

      I am so puzzled by this "former feminist" idea. Do you not believe in equality for women and minorities?


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