Tuesday, April 25, 2017

Title Tuesday:Long Days of Small Things

Welcome to  Title Tuesday, my favorite day of the week! 

This day is dedicated to book suggestions and reviews. I write this portion of my blog because I am a big believer in the motivational speaker Charlie Jones' quote which says, "You will be the same person in five years as you are today except for the people you meet and the books you read.” I try to meet as many new people as possible and to read everything I can. This is my way of sharing that information with you. If you are interested in understanding my rating system for books you can read my Book Review Explanation here and What I Believe here.

I have been waiting for this day for an entire week! I have been just dying to share with y'all about the newest book I have read. Normally my reviews come out about six weeks after I have read the book partly so that I can edit the reviews if need be and partly as a buffer because life happens. But I am SO excited about the book that I am about to share with you that I am writing this on the Monday before I move across the country. My kids are playing, movers are packing my stuff all around me, but I just HAVE to tell you about this book. 

Long Days of Small Things: Motherhood as a Spiritual Discipline by Catherine McNiel is the best book I have read in a very long time and let me tell you why. To start with it is from NavPress, I would have a hard time saying anything that came from NavPress is less than great. But this book takes encouragement and helpful advice to an entirely new level.  

 McNiel writes from a Protestant perspective but she also includes pieces that will speak to a Catholic heart as well. (1 Corinthians 9:19-23 anyone?!?) McNiel does a phenomenal job of explaining the trials of motherhood and how best to combat them with real weapons. The book is broken into chapters where topics like breathing, cooking, menstruating, and drinking water are discussed. (I don't know about you other moms, but I do all of those things.) She goes in depth in to each one of these topics explaining how you can make them a spiritual discipline and all of the advice is practical and usable. I found myself tearing up (and I am SO not a crier) during several different parts of the book thinking to myself, "Oh my goodness, someone else felt this way too!" I laughed during parts of the book, I cried during parts of the book, but all of it was valuable and useful. 

Ovverall, I would have to give Long Days of Small Things: Motherhood as a Spiritual Discipline an A+ and then some. If you are a mom, if you might one day be a mom, if you know a mom, if you have a mom... go get this book immediately! This might also be a good book to go through with a Bible study or a ladies' group. Just have tissues ready!

Also, don't forget, Mothers Day is May 14th this year. That is 3 Sundays from now. If you order Long Days of Small Things: Motherhood as a Spiritual Discipline on Amazon you can get it in time even if you don't have amazon Prime. (Don't forget the gift wrapping!)

Monday, April 24, 2017

Motherhood Monday: From This to That

Welcome to another Motherhood Monday! This is the day dedicated to all things "mommy" related. Check here each Monday for a new post. Today I want to talk about Beauty and the Beast. I know it has been out for a couple of weeks now and I am late in posting this, but that was on purpose. I wanted to give the dust a chance to settle before I wrote out my thoughts, so here we go.

Today I want to talk with you about expectations of yourself. Have you ever been on social media (of any kind) when all of the sudden you just feel awful about yourself? Let me give you some examples.

You see these perfect images of people that just "love their sweet baby SO much" and it was posted at 2 am. At 2 am you certainly aren't thinking of how much you love your sweet baby when they won't  sleep. This is usually the same person that says things like, "him being awake is just extra snuggle time!"

How bout the people that  "just finished a quick 3 mile run" at 6 in the morning while their spouse in deployed. You meanwhile are sitting at your kitchen table in your pajamas at 9 am watching your "sweet babies" dump food on the floor... again. 

I've been there. One of my mentors once told me that people don't put their behind the scenes film on social media, they put their highlight reel. And she was exactly right! 

The pictures up top were taken just two hours apart. The top one was taken at 6:45 in the morning after I had been up most of the night with my youngest son. I am exhausted and worn out. My hair is EVERYWHERE and my skin felt oily and gross.  The lower picture was taken about two hours later when we were getting ready to leave for church. I had makeup on, my hair was (relatively!) tamed. I had on a real shirt rather than one of my husband's training shirts. I felt put together. THAT is the picture that most people put up. They don't put up the first one, because that might show that you don't have it all together. Life might be less than perfect. 

Are you ready for a secret? 

Life isn't perfect. 

It can't be. 

We live in a fallen world.

Children are going to be up all night, husbands will be TDY, sometimes you can't get from this to that. Sometimes your life isn't going to be as smooth as you would like it to be. But that is reality. Know that your value is found in Christ Jesus and not in what people see of you on social media. 

Don't let mommy guilt steal your joy. 

You are fantastic mama, keep shining.  

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Friday, April 21, 2017

Femininity Friday: Feminism and Social Equality

Good morning! Welcome to another Femininity Friday. This is the day of the week when we discuss issues specific to being a woman. Topics range from health and fitness to femininity and feminism. Lets jump in.

So, I started this series almost three years ago and then I had two children in two years and had to slow down my writing for a while.  In case you missed my article almost three years ago let me explain. I started a series about the differences between feminism and anti-feminism. You can read the introduction to the series here and the first post exploring feminism here. We are trying to establish which school of thought (if either of them) is right for a Christian woman. We will be breaking down the definition of the two camps of thought and tackling a part of that definition time I post on the subject.

I have listed out and put a short explanation of the various types of feminism here. (Feel free to check them out. If I have missed any, please let me know!) If you Google the definition of a feminist the answer you get is, "a person who supports feminism". Not super helpful. So then I looked up the definition of feminism which says, "the advocacy of women's rights on the grounds of political, social, and economic equality with men".  

In my first post in this series we looked at the political aspect of the definition of feminism. The second "ground' discussed is social equality. 

So what is social equality exactly? 

Social equality is defined as "a state of affairs in which all people within a specific society or isolated group have the same status in certain respects." When reading feminist texts or blog posts I read a lot about  the following being social issues: equal access to education, the opportunity to develop personal ambitions, autonomy to manage their own lives, and reproductive health. So, since there isn't really a cohesive answer I am going to tackle each one of these topics individually. 

Lets tackle the first issue of education. Lets be  honest, there was a time in history when women weren't allowed (like they were physically barred from going inside) to attend classes at both major and minor universities and colleges. My own beloved Alma Mater, Texas A&M University in College Station, Texas only admitted women on a limited basis 54 years ago! This is an area where "man" made some pretty serious mistakes in my opinion, but here is the thing. It is over.
In the United States, you can now apply for college regardless of race, sex, or creed. In fact, there are now more female college graduates than male graduates. Thanks to Title IX, this battle is over, the goal of equal access to education has been achieved.   

The next two topics go together pretty well, so lets focus on them as a unit. Feminist want "social equality" and one of the ways that will be achieved is through making sure that women have equal opportunity to develop personal ambitions and autonomy over their own lives. I can understand this being a big deal in middle eastern countries where women aren't even able to leave their homes without a male relative. Yes, they desperately need this social equality. 

But here in the United States? 

Don't we already have this? Is anyone stopping you from trying to become a YouTube sensation, a WNBA star, or a nuclear physicist? NO! Women in the United States can do literally anything that they want, there is nothing holding you back. You have the autonomy to do whatever you want with your life. In fact, there was an article in the news this week about a girl being the first female athlete to earn an NCAA football scholarship directly out of high school. But here is the thing, do you know why she got the scholarship? Because she EARNED IT. It wasn't handed to her. I guarantee that she has spent hours and hours of her life practicing her sport. She had personal ambitions, she worked hard and she earned them, that is equality. 

This is usually the part where people start talking about how there aren't enough women going in to were in history predominately "male" jobs. But here is the thing, if you are all about women having autonomy, if they don't want to go in to that job field why do you care? If Sally wants a degree in Home Economics rather than Engineering, doesn't she have the right to make that choice?  

Lastly is the issue of reproductive health. This is a tricky issue cut and dry case of understanding what the verbiage actually means. Are feminists saying that women need to have access to information and treatment of female specific reproductive health problems? Then heck yes, I support that with a caveat. Abortion is not "reproductive health". I won't even start in on the religious side of the argument because it won't mean anything to people that don't share my faith. Just looking at the most basic science, these two issues don't belong lumped together. Check out The Secular Case Against Abortion and see what I mean. There is no pro-life and the pro-choice side of the reproductive health argument. Abortion advocates have done a brilliant job of tying murdering babies and "women's health" together. If you aren't pro-choice then you are anti "women's health". This simply isn't fact. I support women getting the medical care that they need, but I do NOT support women murdering their children and calling it "reproductive health". 

In my mind, women in the United States already have equal access to education, equal access to autonomy and personal ambition, and equal access to healthcare. No one is standing in front of these doors holding women away.  Therefore, advocacy for social equality is not a valid reason to join the feminist cause, since we already have the equality that feminism supposedly fights for. 
The next post in the series (which I would love to say would be next week but we are about to move across the entire country with two children under two so it may be a little further out!) we will be looking at economic equality. We will be looking at the Bible, academic texts, articles, news sources and more to get a clear image of what each group believes. Then I will check those beliefs with What I Believe and form a decision. 

While this is a bit more academic and a little less relational that the things I normally write, I still want to encourage constructive conversation about the topic. I would love to hear any suggestions, thoughts, or comments that y'all may have!

Wednesday, April 19, 2017

Wife to Wife Wednesday: Jokes and Respect

Good morning! Welcome to Wife to Wife Wednesday, the day that we discuss any and all issues relating to marriage. 

Today I want to talk about something that may be a bit divisive in the Christian community. I wrote last week about husband bashing and why it is a bad idea. Today I want to expand on that topic a bit. I want to talk to you (a.k.a Christian wives) about making jokes at your husbands expense. 

If you watch television or movies you are probably familiar with the overused trope of the bumbling idiot dad and the mom who sighs as she cleans up his messes.  Don't believe me? Check out: Everybody Loves Raymond, The George Lopez Show, and Family Matters. (I know most of these shows are out of date, but we don't own a television, so go with me.) Each of these shows depict the husband as this big goofy kid that the wife has to keep in place. She is the head of the family and he just sort of trips and falls through life. 

This idea that husbands are bumbling fools seems to have completely infiltrated society, even Christian society. You see them on social media, in memes, on television, on the radio... the list goes on and on. As I mentioned in my article last week about husband bashing, this is usually where people start shrieking about how it is just a joke. But here is the thing, if you are a Bible believing Christian, then you have to take what the Bible says seriously. Lets take a look at what the Bible says about these "jokes" and use that to help us decide if you should or should not re-post a "joke" on social media.

Lets start wit the most obvious thing, should you be posting these jokes at all? Ephesians 4:29 says, "Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen." Ok, so maybe these aren't dirty jokes, so the qualify as wholesome. But what about that second part? Is it helpful? Does it build people (your husband) up? Is it a benefit to those who listen?  If the answer is NO to any of those questions, don't re-post. 

Ok, so now lets check out Proverbs 16:28 which says, "A perverse person stirs up conflict, and a gossip separates close friends." Are these "jokes" stirring up conflict? If you make these jokes about your husband to a friend, are you not gossiping? If the answer to any of these questions is yes, don't re-post. 

Finally, lets check out Ephesians 5:33 which says, "However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband." This is a passage of scripture that not many preachers are willing to tackle because it angers feminists greatly. However, if you believe that the Bible is the inerrant Word of God, breathed by God (2 Timothy 3:16) then you have to take this portion of the Bible just as seriously as you would any other part of the Bible. 

So ladies, before you re-post that "hilarious" meme from your favorite mommy blog. Stop, think. Run it through your checklist. If it doesn't meet the standards the Christ set for us, don't post it. Honor and respect your husband, as you were commanded to. 

Tuesday, April 18, 2017

Title Tuesday: When Your Husband Is Addicted To Pornography

Welcome to  Title Tuesday, my favorite day of the week! 

Welcome to  Title Tuesday, my favorite day of the week! This day is dedicated to book suggestions and reviews. I write this portion of my blog because I am a big believer in the motivational speaker Charlie Jones' quote which says, "You will be the same person in five years as you are today except for the people you meet and the books you read.” I try to meet as many new people as possible and to read everything I can. This is my way of sharing that information with you. If you are interested in understanding my rating system for books you can read my Book Review Explanation here and What I Believe here.

I have had a lot of questions and requests about re-building your marriage after pornography usage. So today, I am going to write about Nicki Tiede's When Your Husband Is Addicted To Pornography: Healing Your Wounded Heart". 

I need to start by saying that this book is not a touchy-feely book. It is a hard one to get through. Don't get me wrong, it is well written, but the subject matter isn't easy. Tiede's book is designed for women whose husband is viewing (typical) pornography. If your husband has cheated, is abusive, or is looking at something illegal, this is not the book for you.

This book is broken down into 6 weeks, with five days each. Each day has a portion to read, blanks to fill in, and a journaling portion. The reading portion each day contains truly helpful and biblical counsel rather than just another "pray really hard" book. (Let me clarify, there is NOTHING wrong with praying hard about your marriage, but books that promise tips and advice in marriage and then only point to prayer rather than prayer in addition to self reflection, being in the Word, and ridding your home of tempting materials are not worth the money!) With most books, I really dislike the fill in the blank questions. It usually feels like they are trying to extend the page length of the book by asking questions directly from the text. Tiede does a really good job of making the questions interesting, developing, and thorough without it being redundant. The journaling portion is probably the most often skipped of any "self help" book, but Tiede's is definitely worth doing and doing well.  

Overall I would give Nicki Tiede's When Your Husband Is Addicted To Pornography: Healing Your Wounded Heart" a solid A+. If you find that your marriage is losing the battle against pornography this book is an excellent resource along with biblical counseling, accountability, and internet filters and monitoring

(Just so you know, the links are part of the Amazon affiliate program, if you purchase any of these things from my links I will receive a small commission off of your purchase.)

Monday, April 17, 2017

Motherhood Monday: The Man in the Grey Suit

Welcome to another Motherhood MondayMotherhood is an incredible blessing. But it is also a huge challenge. Anyone that has experienced motherhood will tell you, there is an incredible shift in your very being when you become a mother. This is the day dedicated to all things "mommy" related. Check here each Monday for a new post. 

Today, I want to tell you about a man at our church a few months ago. He was in a grey full three piece suit, his hair was grey, and he carried an old leather bound Bible under his arm. As soon as he sat down in the pew in front of us my heart sank and all I could think was, "oh no".

Now before you go thinking that I hate old people I should explain something first.

You see I have two sons, at the time they were 19 months old and 3 months old and we keep them in church with us. We believe that if at all possible our children should be in the worship service with us. The reasons behind this are many:

  • We (my husband and I) are responsible for training our children well (Proverbs 22:6) We want our sons to learn to listen to the sermon, take notes, and grow in the body of Christ. It's hard to do that if they are only on the sanctuary when there isn't any children's church.
  • We don't believe in separating the body of Christ by ages. In fact, Titus 2:1-5 talks about the older people teaching the younger people. That's hard to do if everyone in your class is all the same age. We lose a huge opportunity to learn from the older and wiser when we break off in age brackets.
  • Finally, Jesus himself said, "let the children come to me" (Matthew 19:14). If Christ (who only had 3 short years for his ministry) took the time to teach with the children, so too can we.
At the last church when my (then) 4 month old son made any noise at all (even just happy baby sounds) people would turn and stare. I kid you not. No other children were in the service. I then, had a chaplain's wife come and tell me how distracting my son was for her during the service. It wasn't like he was screaming, he was simply doing what babies do. After careful prayer and consideration we decided to leave that church since it was so unwelcoming of children in the service.

Ok, back to my story. We are in church, the worship team is about to get rolling and in come this older gentleman and his wife. As they sit in front of us I can't help but think of the church that we left to begin attending this church. I was afraid of being accused of disrupting again. My son did very well the entire service. He "took notes" with his little church toolbox that I made for him. He read his book quietly.

At the very end of the service he started to get a little antsy and I thought, "oh no, here it comes". But the old man never turned around. He continued to follow along in his Bible taking notes. When we were released the old man stood up and turned to leave. As he did, I caught his eye and he smiled the knowing smile of a fellow parent. He waved at my son and gave him a thumbs up as he walked away.

I wish I had told him thank you. 

So now, I am going to say it. 

Thank you for helping to reinforce that parenting is normal. Thank you for helping to reassure two newbie parents that we are doing a good job. Thank you for modeling how a Godly man responds to little children in the church. Thank you for being welcoming, like Christ.

Monday, April 10, 2017

Military Monday: The Military Child

Welcome to another Military Monday!

Upon marrying a military man I learned that there is a LOT to know about life as a military spouse. Mondays are my day to talk about the things I am learning, the new language, military news and current events. Sometimes I post encouraging videos, stories, and cartoons as well.

April is the official Month of the Military Child! As the mother of two little boys and the wife of a soldier, I can tell you it isn't easy to be part of a military family. So today we are going to make a list of why military kids are awesome and I have some links below to good resources for the military child and parent.

If you know a military kid, give them a little extra love this month. Buy them an ice cream cone, take them to the park, be there for them. Most of these kids didn't get a vote in having to sacrifice birthdays, holidays, and special occasions with their parents. The Christian community needs to wrap our arms around these kids and let them know that they are loved and valued. They need to know that we see the sacrifice that they are making and we appreciate it so very much. 

Here are a list of resources for your military kids:

1.) Books for Military kids: 
(This is by no means an exhaustive list, these are just some of our favorites!)

2.) Are you looking to get your military kid involved? Check out this post.

3.) Did you know that there is a magazine just for military kids?!? There totally is! You can check it out here

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Friday, April 7, 2017

Femininity Friday: My 6 Minute Look

Good morning! Welcome to another Femininity Friday. This is the day of the week when we discuss issues specific to being a woman. Topics range from health and fitness to femininity and feminism. Today I am going to share with you my six minute beauty routine! 

If your house is anything like mine, mornings can be a rough time of day. Being a mom of two little boys, ages 2 and under, makes getting ready in the morning feel like a struggle. My husband is in the Army and many mornings he has to leave before the sun is up. We run an in-home garage gym ministry that has people in my home 5-7 days per week, often before I have had a full cup of coffee. Taking the time to make myself presentable is important to me, but difficult. Trying to tame my very long and unruly hair is challenging enough, but trying to add putting on makeup early in the morning as well can feel like an arduous task!  

I am always on the look out for quick and inexpensive ways to help me look and feel my best each day. So today, I thought I would share with you my 6 minute look (yes I clocked it!) to getting out the door...  or in my case, to the garage. All of the things that I list out below are found in the cosmetics area at Walmart or, I have provided links to Amazon for the exact thing that I use.  

Phase 1: FACE IT

  1. Wash your face: I use Clean & Clear Morning Burst Skin Brightening Facial Scrub, 5 Oz. I like the way it smells. You wouldn't think that would be a selling point for a face wash, but for me it totally is! 
  2. Prime your face: I use E.l.f. Poreless Primer, 0.47 Fluid Ounce. I really like how smooth it is! With some primers I end up feeling oily and then I don;t end up using it regularly. This one is nice and light. 
  3. Apply FoundationI use COVERGIRL Simply Powder Foundation Classic Ivory Warm 510, .41 oz. I like a smoother matte look on my face. I live in the south and I associate the "dewy" look with sweat. Any other southerners feel that way? 
  4. Conceal Trouble Spots:  I like e.l.f. Concealer, Ivory, 0.11 Ounce, I like this color a lot. I find with concealers sometimes that I end up looking like I have dark spots on my face if I am not very careful. This one is soft enough not to make it look like a bad contouring job. 
  5. Rosy Bloom: I use COVERGIRL Clean Glow Lightweight Powder Blush Roses 100, .42 oz high on my cheekbones. I don't do contouring because, honestly what mom has time to do that every day? Maybe if I get a chance I will do another post with my "dramatic" look where I contour, but for now, this is it. 
Phase 2: EYES UP
  1. Colorful Eyes: I use COVERGIRL Eye Enhancers 4-Kit Eye Shadow Urban Basics, .19 oz almost every day. If I am going to a special event or if I want something more dramatic I will use COVERGIRL Eye Shadow Quads Stunning Smokeys 715, .06 oz, but I really only use it for military balls, and maybe a special date night. I like color on my eyes so I tend to play around with different eye shadows often. What do you like to use? 
  2. Line Up: I like to use CoverGirl Perfect Point Eye Liner Mechanical Pencil, Chestnut (w) 212, 0.008-Ounce for my eyeliner. I don't use a traditional pencil because I hate shavings from sharpening them, plus a sharpener with a 2 year old is NEVER A GOOD IDEA. I use brown unless I am using the smokey eye pallet above and then I will use black. 
  3. Big Lashes: As I mentioned earlier, I am from the south and we LOVE big eyelashes! I use COVERGIRL LashBlast Waterproof Mascara Black Brown 835, .44 oz and I love it. If I am going to use the black eyeliner, I use this same mascara, but in black. 
Phase 3: Finish It Off
  1. Lovely Lips: I use CoverGirl Outlast All Day Two Step Lipcolor, Nude 593, 0.13 Ounce on my lips and I love it. I don't have to constantly reapply it (again, I'm southern, we do that!) and that is a big selling point for me.
  2. Set It Up: I use a setting spray since I live in North Carolina and it is hot and humid here. I like e.l.f. Makeup Mist and Set, Clear, 2.02 Ounce because it doesn't have an obvious odor to it. I can't stand smelling my own makeup all day. 
  3. Luscious Locks: The last thing that I do is try to tame my crazy hair. You can check out my Pinterest board for hair ideas, but the thing that I use most often are Lila Rose Flexi Clips. I don't sell them myself, but I have a lot of them. They hold my very thick and heavy hair up without giving me a headache like when I wear my hair in a ponytail. Just for reference, i wear the small size for a half up look and the 2XL for an updo.
That's it! 

That is my entire 6 minute look. If my husband is already gone for the morning I  usually give my boys a basket of trucks to play with on the floor right outside the bathroom door and knock this out while listening to praise and worship music or a Focus on the Family podcast. If my husband is home we tag team it, he plays with the boys while I get ready and vice versa. 

What are your tips and tricks for getting ready for the day? 

I'd love to hear all about your routines, hacks, and favorites!

(Just so you know, the links are part of the Amazon affiliate program, if you purchase any of these things from my links I will receive a small commission off of your purchase.)

Wednesday, April 5, 2017

Wife to Wife Wednesday: The Husband Bashing Edition

Good morning! Welcome to Wife to Wife Wednesday, the day that we discuss any and all issues relating to marriage. 

So, I realized that the title of my post may be misleading, after I wrote my post. We will not e bashing our husbands today. Instead I want to talk about why you shouldn't bash your husband. First though, lets start with some vocabulary. 

The thing a husband requires most in life is respect. All men across the board answer resoundingly that this is the desires of their heart. Dr. Emerson Eggerich talks about this extensively in his book Love and Respect. I honestly in the past I haven't put much stock in men's need for respect because frankly I didn't understand it. (In a lot of ways I still don't but having three men in my home is making me learn it in new ways!) We aren't going to get in to the issues of respecting your husband and the reasons why. I will save that for another day because it is a big topic that deserves its own post(s). Today I am going to assume that everyone still readying this post is a Christian and takes the command in Ephesians 5:23, to respect your husband,  seriously. 

That is all great and wonderful, but back to the vocabulary. 

Why am I using the word bash?

From what I have seen in my four years doing in home ministry most Christian women at least attempt to be respectful of their husbands, when the husband is present. Only a few times have I seen a wife seriously disrespect her husband publicly and most of those times were enacted by new wives who were unaware of the husbands need or they simply didn't understand that what they were doing was disrespectful. Again, we are not talking about them today. 

Today, I am talking about things said negatively about husbands when they are not in the room. When I was brainstorming with some trusted friends about my writing recently, my friend Anna requested that I tackle this subject. My friend specifically mentioned husband bashing and Facebook. Honestly it wasn't something that I was super in tune with until after she mentioned it and then I saw it more often than I could believe. 

In most situations, I don't believe that these women set out to intentionally be disrespectful, but they splash their lives all over the Internet and they are not discrete about their husbands shortcomings, or worse, they highlight them! That is why I am using the word bash. They aren't being outright ugly, but they are doing damage and they don't realize it.

"But Morgan," they say, "It was a joke! It was funny, lighten up!" This is where I will refer back to scripture. Titus 2:7 says, "In everything set them an example by doing what is good. In your teaching show integrity, seriousness". I don't believe that making fun of your spouse on the internet is a good idea. You would (hopefully) never walk in to your husband's place of business and talk about what a loser he is, so why do you put it on Facebook? I think it is a slippery slope from "teasing" to complaining about your husband and therefore undermining your marriage. 

So in conclusion for today, before you post on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, or whatever else think twice. Is what your posting honoring to your husband, to your marriage? Would you feel comfortable saying to a group of your husband's colleagues with him in the room? If not, don't post it. Protect your marriage and protect your witness.    

Tuesday, April 4, 2017

Title Tuesday: How Do You Tuck In A Superhero

Welcome to  Title Tuesday, my favorite day of the week! 

This day is dedicated to book suggestions and reviews. I write this portion of my blog because I am a big believer in the motivational speaker Charlie Jones' quote which says, "You will be the same person in five years as you are today except for the people you meet and the books you read.” I try to meet as many new people as possible and to read everything I can. This is my way of sharing that information with you. With that being said, let us jump in and get started.

Today I want to talk about How Do You Tuck In a Superhero: And Other Delightful Mysteries of Raising Boys by Rachel Balducci. This book was given to me at a baby shower when I was 25 weeks pregnant with my first son William. I read it through while my husband was away at Airborne School and I remember laughing at some of the stories inside, but with chapter titles like, "Proper Care and Feeding" and "The Sweet Side" I didn't exactly take it seriously. 

Fast Forward three years and we arrive to present day.

I have read and re-read this book four times. 

I currently have two rambunctious, full throttle, non-stop boys. The stories and anecdotes in Balducci's book make me feel like she might be a kindred spirit. I have found myself saying no you may not cook (insert legos/shoes/duplos/crayons) in my oven, too! Balducci does a great job of tackling the "are you going to try for a girl" question with grace and humor. My favorite part of the book however, is where she writes,
Whenever we are out in public, someone will invariably come up to us and note that we have all these boys and that I have my own team. Yes I will say and I am the team mom and my job is to keep the players fed and clothed and prevent them from fouling out.
I love her perspective that they are together and a team. I love that she doesn't shy away from the fact that she has "a lot" of children. I respect that she has taken to being a mom of boys with humor and a biblical perspective. She allows them to be masculine while helping to cultivate their active little hearts and pointing them to Jesus. While I originally thought this book was going to be full of tips and tricks it was actually so much more than just another parenting book. Rachel Balducci manages to be funny, relate-able, and relevant despite the fact that this book is predominately a biography of family life. Her wit and insights help those of us new to being Boy Moms to feel better about the fact that we have melted Legos on the bottom of our ovens. Overall I give How Do You Tuck In a Superhero a solid A+ and I encourage any #BoyMom to read it through and share it with your friends.