Tuesday, June 20, 2017

Title Tuesday: Parenting in the Pew

Welcome to  Title Tuesday, my favorite day of the week! This day is dedicated to book suggestions and reviews. I write this portion of my blog because I am a big believer in the motivational speaker Charlie Jones' quote which says, "You will be the same person in five years as you are today except for the people you meet and the books you read.” I try to meet as many new people as possible and to read everything I can. This is my way of sharing that information with you. If you are interested in understanding my rating system for books you can read my Book Review Explanation here and What I Believe here.

Today I want to tell you about a book that made me want to stand up and cheer. I mean it! Reading through Parenting in the Pew nearly brought me to tears on more than one occasion, and here is why. My entire experience in the church as a parent has been wrought with strife. I felt constantly at odds with my surroundings. I was uncomfortable with the nursing room, the ugly glances from people in the service if my child made a sound, and the idea of strangers (even well intention-ed) caring for my sons. I have spent the last two years (literally since the first Sunday after William was born!) trying to nail down this feeling, trying to be able to explain it to other people and I just didn't have the words. 

Enter, Robbie Castleman and her book Parenting in the Pew.

Mrs. Castleman uses wisdom, wit, and the Word of God to give a solid argument to what I have been feeling for years.  I believe that children deserve more than being separated from the rest of the body of Christ. Robbie nails this one on the head with her argument of how will you grow if you are only surrounded by people your own age? Castleman explains why children should be in the pew, and how to do it well. She is cheerful and clear in her writing which provides focus for parents that may be struggling with the issue of "children's church".  

I think we have a lot we can learn from our children and I think we do them a disservice to say you aren't mature enough to worship God. Castleman does an excellent job of encouraging and equipping parents to bring thier children out of the vegetable laden world of children's church and into the presence of God. I give  Parenting in the Pew a solid A+ and I strongly recommend anyone with children to go read it immediately! 


Monday, June 19, 2017

Military Monday: Safety Briefings

Welcome to another Military Monday!

Upon marrying a military man I learned that there is a LOT to know about life as a military spouse. Mondays are my day to talk about the things I am learning, the new language, military news and current events. Sometimes I post encouraging videos, stories, and cartoons as well.


Friday, June 16, 2017

Femininity Friday: Feminism 2.0 Video

Good morning! Welcome to another Femininity Friday. This is the day of the week when we discuss issues specific to being a woman. Topics range from health and fitness to femininity and feminism. Lets jump in.

Today I want to share a video sent to me by a reader. I really enjoyed Tammy Bruce's explanation of what feminism is built on and why we can't share in it. While she takes a secular perspective, I think many of her ideas can be lent to the Christian worldview as well. Check it out below. 


What do YOU think?

Monday, June 12, 2017

Marriage Encouragement

Good morning y'all!

I know it is Monday and normally I would post a Military Monday or a Motherhood Monday post. But, today I read an article from Kay Warren (wife of author Rick Warren) on Christianity Today and it really touched my heart. You can read the article here. So, I want to talk just a bit about marriage.

In the article, Mrs. Warren describes being in "marital hell", but not being able to say anything or do anything because she and her husband were supposed to have it all together. I can honestly say that I have felt the EXACT same way. While our ministry isn't nearly as big or as noted as the Warrens, Farr Fitness does see a LOT of people come through our home multiple times a day each and every week. The pressure to have a seemingly perfect marriage is pretty intense and easy to give in to.

Reading Mrs. Warren's story got me thinking about martial intimacy and the secrets that the Christian body hides from one another. In the article Kay says, "The common understanding of the day was if you love Jesus enough, your marriage will be happy. What was so confusing was that we loved Jesus with all our hearts and were committed to the local church. How could things be so bad?" and I can totally relate to this idea. We are in the middle of  sharpening iron as we speak. We are both committed to our marriage and we are learning to be humble and submissive to one another in Christ Jesus. 

I write all of this to say that if your marriage is struggling, if your heart is hurting, do not give up. I feel like there is SO much more to say on this subject but I am going to take some time to read, pray and speak with mentors and then I will post up my thoughts.


For now, I will leave you with, the goal of focusing on Jesus Christ. Get in the word every single day, multiple times a day. 


Contact a friend, an older woman, a mentor, and ask them to be in prayer for your marriage. 


It can be will be hard, but it is SO worth it, I promise.  

Monday, May 29, 2017

Military Monday: Memorial Day

Welcome to another Military Monday!

Upon marrying a military man I learned that there is a LOT to know about life as a military spouse. Mondays are my day to talk about the things I am learning, the new language, military news and current events. Sometimes I post encouraging videos, stories, and cartoons as well.



Before you say, "happy Memorial Day" remember what this day is all about. 
Today as you have a day off from work, eat barbecue, and swim for the first time this summer, remember the men and women that have given their lives for our freedom. 

Wednesday, May 24, 2017

Wife to Wife Wednesday: Do Better, Be Better

Good morning! Welcome to Wife to Wife Wednesday, the day that we discuss any and all issues relating to marriage. 

For those of you that don't know we just PCSed across the country (literally from North Carolina to California). In fact I am currently sitting in a coffee shop in San Diego to write this post because we don't have internet set up at our new house yet. PCSing is hard when it is just you and your husband. PCSing becomes super challenging when you have to drive across the southern United States with a one and two year old boy. 

Once we got to San Diego the military movers showed up and dumped 142 boxes (our household goods) and then drove away. 

Like we tend to do, Brian and I quickly got in to the swing of things. I am writing this article exactly one week later and we are 60% unpacked. The boxes that aren't unpacked are things like large winter coats and baby items that we wont need in the near future. As I unpacked each box I was careful to look at it again and say do we need this item? If not, could we bless someone else with it? 

During this time I am reminded of how difficult life can be if you aren't focused of Christ. In the middle of moving across the country with two small children (and not on your own timetable, thank you Army!) it can be easy to forget about God. 

I decided to use the 6 day drive across the country to listen to the Bible, Christian podcasts, and sermons. And it has reminded me of how incredibly important it is for us (as wives) to be diligent in our homemaking. 

Setting up our new home has been an incredible opportunity to refocus our home on Christ and witnessing for the kingdom of God. I have an incredible opportunity to set the tone for my family! 

My mood and attitude impacts my husband, my children and those that come in to our ministry. So, in an effort to be a better helpmeet, mother, and witness I am challenging myself to do better. Be better. I hope to include the blog (and maybe some new projects!) in this goal. I promise to keep you updated. 

For now though, I want to encourage you to be thinking about how you can impact your home for the better!

Sunday, May 21, 2017

Military Monday: Red Shirt Fridays

Welcome to another Military Monday!

Upon marrying a military man I learned that there is a LOT to know about life as a military spouse. Mondays are my day to talk about the things I am learning, the new language, military news and current events. Sometimes I post encouraging videos, stories, and cartoons as well.

Today I want to share with you about wearing R.E.D. on Fridays.  

This is the part where people say, "But Morgan, this is Military Monday! Why are you talking about fashion?" 

Well, as I said before, I am an Army wife.  I have learned a lot during my now 4 years as a military spouse. My children are Army brats. Having been stationed at Fort Bragg for my oldest son's first two years he LOVES helicopters, especially the "banana copters" (that is what he calls chinooks). My youngest son is obsessed with chem lights (essentially glow sticks). My home has camo in just about every single room. 

Yes, this blog is about my journey out of feminism and in to Christian motherhood, and R.E.D. shirt Friday is now a part of my journey. I have seen first hand the sacrifices that military service members and their families have to make every single day. Missed birthdays, first days of school, first steps, and more. It can be hard when it feels like everyone in the country is against the military, and yet your spouse is out there doing what less than 1% of the population will do. 

So, in solidarity with my military wife (and husband) friends, I will wear R.E.D. every Friday. Want to join me? It doesn't have to be a special shirt that says anything about the military. A simple red tshirt will do. If you work in an office a red blouse is great too. You can get specific R.E.D. Friday shirts here and here.

But what does wearing R.E.D. actually do? 

It is a tiny way that I can show support to the men and women that make it possible for me to be at home with my children teaching them scripture. It is a minuscule way that I can stand with the spouses around me whose loved one is overseas. It is a way to show support for the men and women that are writing a blank check to the United States of America, for my sake. 

Do you want more information about R.E.D. Fridays? Check it out here
Are you going to wear RED this Friday? Post a picture of your RED on my facebook or twitter, I'd love to see it!


Thursday, May 18, 2017

Femininity Friday: Fitbit Band Review

Good morning! Welcome to another Femininity Friday. This is the day of the week when we discuss issues specific to being a woman. Topics range from health and fitness to femininity and feminism. Lets jump in.

Today I want to share with you about my new Fitbit bandsI know that many people may see this as a frivolous post but to me it is important so I am going to share it because this is my little corner of the internet and I can. 

Let me start by saying that this is NOT a paid post. I am sharing about these new band because I really like them and I know that a lot of people want to change out their bands so I thought I would share my experiences with you. If you don't have a Fitbit or if this is uninteresting to you then just ignore this post and get ready for the next Femininity Friday.

Moving on! 

As some of you may know my husband and I run a free garage gym out of our home as a Christian ministry. Being fit is kind of part of owning a gym. (I mean really, why would you take fitness advice or coaching from someone that wasn't fit themselves?) My husband gave me a Fitbit Charge 2 HR for my birthday this last year. I was four months postpartum with my second baby in 2 years. I wasn't allowed to squat or deadlift yet, so the Fitbit was a fun way to keep track of my new physical goals.

My original band was the plain purple one that comes with the HR2. I liked it a lot. I got the purple because I own a garage gym and I have two little boys 2 and under... dirt follows me everywhere I go. I didn't want to get the teal or the pink because I just knew it would get stained. I have several friends with those colors and they all said that is exactly what happened after just a few weeks. One of those friends ended up ordering replacement bands for her Fitbit and she didn't like the pattern, so she gave them to me! 

I have to say, I LOVE them. But then again I just really like floral prints, so maybe that is just me. 

Because I liked them so much I thought I would share the information with y'all. 

I like these bands because they are durable, fit well, and they don't look like a "fitness tracker". I have been wearing this band for a little over a month now and so far it looks the exact same. I have worn it to the beach, Saguaro National Park, and moving across the country.  No wearing or pulling. It hasn't stretched out. The colors have stayed true. I also love how feminine the floral prints are!  

If you work in an office or a professional setting where you might not want to wear "athletic gear" this could be a great alternative.


So all of that to say, these bands are my new favorite and if you are looking for a way to spice up look this could be a fun and inexpensive way to do that. 

See y'all next week!

Sunday, May 14, 2017

Motherhood Monday: Respecting Your Children

Welcome to another Motherhood MondayMotherhood is an incredible blessing. But it is also a huge challenge. Anyone that has experienced motherhood will tell you, there is an incredible shift in your very being when you become a mother. This is the day dedicated to all things "mommy" related. Check here each Monday for a new post. 

I was recently on social media when I saw the purple picture below pop up (not the floral part, I added that!). At first I was tempted to laugh at it. But as I scrolled past trying to get to the article I was originally looking for, that meme really stuck with me. 



Recently respect has really been on my heart, I think because it is an area that I have been struggling in for most of my life. I have written about husband bashing and making jokes at your husband's expense on my last two Wife to Wife Wednesday posts. Today I want to talk about respecting our children, more specifically, do you honor and  respect your children with your words and your social media? 

If you are at all familiar with the "mommy blog" world then you are probably used to seeing images like this one splashed about social media. There are literally hundreds of them out there. 

Don't believe me? 

Check out Scary Mommy (which bills itself as a blog for less than perfect parents) and see for yourself. It almost seems as if people have decided that making fun of, teasing, and being sarcastic about parenting is a parenting style in and of itself.  Media outlets have caught on to this trend and there are even "funny" tweet sections of major news outlets. 

Some parenting memes and tweets are legitimately funny situations that happen when you parent. (And parenting can be absolutely hilarious!) Others however seem to just be an excuse to belittle their children without having to do it to their face. It is essentially the grown up version of muttering under your breath as you walk away so that you don't get caught. 

But here is the thing, Facebook is often referred to as a digital scrapbook, so what message are you leaving for your children? When your kids search the internet for information about you (like we searched through attics, basements, and closets about our parents) what will they see that you said about them? Is it enough that you posted a sweet picture of them if you posted a meme once a week about how annoying parenting is? 

"Colossians 3:21 says, " Fathers, do not exasperate your children, so that they will not lose heart." Exasperate means to irritate intensely; infuriate. When your children see that you have posted ugly things about parenting on social media throughout their childhood, what do you think that their response will be? Will you have pointed them towards the love of Christ? Or will they be discouraged? Will you have made them lose heart? 

I get it, parenting is hard. I have a two year old and a one year old... parenting is HARD. So for nonbelievers, it makes sense that they would use social media (or whatever platform that they can) to process through the complexities of parenthood. However, if you are a follower of Jesus Christ I think we are held to a different standard. We are supposed to point our children to Christ. We are supposed to be a loving example to them. In my mind, it is pretty hard to do that if you are posting memes that degrade and belittle your children. 

So at the end of the day, raise your kids right. Love them, cherish them, Psalm 127:3 says "children are a gift from the Lord". If you are a Christian parent and you believe that the Bible is the inerrant word of God start acting like your children are a gift and raise them right. 



Monday, May 8, 2017

Title Tuesday: Worthy of Her Trust

Welcome to  Title Tuesday, my favorite day of the week! 

Welcome to  Title Tuesday, my favorite day of the week! This day is dedicated to book suggestions and reviews. I write this portion of my blog because I am a big believer in the motivational speaker Charlie Jones' quote which says, "You will be the same person in five years as you are today except for the people you meet and the books you read.” I try to meet as many new people as possible and to read everything I can. This is my way of sharing that information with you. If you are interested in understanding my rating system for books you can read my Book Review Explanation here and What I Believe here.


I have had a lot of questions and requests about re-building your marriage after pornography usage. Last week I reviewed Nicki Tiede's When Your Husband Is Addicted To Pornography: Healing Your Wounded Heart". Going along with this theme, today I want to tell you about "Worthy of Her Trust: What You Need to Do to Rebuild Sexual Integrity and Win Her Back" by Stephen Arterburn and Jason B. Martinkus. 


I need to start off with the fact that  "Worthy of Her Trust: What You Need to Do to Rebuild Sexual Integrity and Win Her Back" is written to men, and not women.  Now women you can absolutely read it (I did!) especially if you husband isn't a reader but he really does want to rebuild your trust. While the authors are Christians, if your husband isn't a believer but he is open to rebuilding trust, this book has many useful tools that are areligious.  Fair warning though, the authors are tough. They take a nonsense approach and speak fairly plainly, man to man. But as a wife, I can honestly say that this book has helped me to better understand the battle that our husbands face with moral purity too. I just wanted to give you a heads up. 

Arterburn and Martinkus do a really good job of laying out what it means to break trust and then how to go about building it back up. They make it clear that it won't be quick or easy. They also inform the reader that what works for one family won't work for another. I absolutely LOVE the section in the book that talks about active honest (meaning tell the truth in EVERYTHING, no little white lies). I think this is something that every Christian marriage should practice regardless of pornography struggles or not. 

This book is broken down into four different parts: Exchanging Myths for Reality, The Nonnegotiable of Trust Building, Mending Wounds, and Trust Building Tactics. I found that each section builds on the last. This isn't the kind of book that you hop around in. Instead, I would go through it methodically. 

Overall, I would give "Worthy of Her Trust: What You Need to Do to Rebuild Sexual Integrity and Win Her Back" an A+ and then some. If I had a higher rating I would use that. This book is an excellent tool that should be in every Christian family's toolbox. 


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if you purchase any of these things from my links I will receive a small commission off of your purchase.)